and raised in a family where love and care isn’t negotiable, she grew up
morally upright and was aware of the importance attached to her femininity.
Sonia exhibited her caring nature right from childhood but an incident changed
all these—she was 10 at the time. She visited a friend who was diagnosed to be mentally
ill, which made her friend to be left with a male cousin who was about 16 then;
she loved him like her brother and even trusted him. She recalled her friend
was hungry; she was in the kitchen to find out if there was food available for
her hungry friend and there she met her friend’s cousin. He grinned at her and
asked her if she would like to sit on his laps, she said no, he repeated the statement
twice and twice she said no. Angrily, he grabbed her and pressed her to his
body and forced her to kiss him, and then he threw her violently across the
room to hit the wall on the other side. Picked her up, slammed into the ground
and undressed her after pinning her against the floor; he did it violently with
her and after sometime, she struggled to get away from his grip and ran all the
way home without looking back. She has just been abused, hurt, and sexually
molested and this was her worst experience ever and she had to live with this
for the rest of her life.
also referred to as molestation,
is the application of force depicting undesired sexual behavior by an
individual on another. If such force is inconstant or last for a short period
of time, it is called sexual assault. Sexual abuses often involve an untoward
behavior by an adult towards a
minor or likewise another adult to stimulate either the adult or child
sexually. In an instance where the one that is assaulted is young and cannot
give consent to such sexual advances, it is called child sexual abuse.
philosopher, the third president and a founding father of the United States of America, Thomas
Jefferson, said, and I quote, “I was bold in the
pursuit of knowledge, never fearing to follow truth and reason to whatever
results they led, and bearding every authority which stood in their way”.
Inspiring knowledge to the hitherto exposed minors will equip them with power
to stamp their authority against sexual abuse. Growing kids need sex education
if they must survive in a sexually-aggressive world.
sex education is part of some elementary school’s curricula, studies have shown
young pupils are more interested in knowing
about puberty and the changes they experience in their bodies, instead of
the sex and reproduction stuffs been
drilled into them. If
a three-year-old kid in elementary schools can be wise enough to ask where
babies come from, a six-year-old browses the internet to connect with friends,
and a seven-year-old technically pushes to be popular with his buddies, then
sex education is compulsory.
feel more comfortable talking to their parents about the changes happening in
their body, relationships and sex, hence sex education starts from home, but in
spite of these, it is disheartening to know that many parents lack the
confidence to give frank answers to questions pertaining to sex. It is also necessary
to know that secondary sex education matters much in secondary schools and
should be given a special priority because this is the beginning of the age
range when young boys, girls and teens come under immense instability due to
peer pressures, and hence, crave for more freedom. This is when they want their
voice on love and romance to be heard.
Educating wards, then, about sex
requires proper dissemination of relevant information depending on factors such
as age and exposure rate. At 18 months, a child should be taught proper names
for their body parts, and as they progress to the age bracket of 3-5 years, they
need to be informed about their obviously growing private parts and how they
can resist sexual advances. Also, ensuring their own safety whenever they are
far away from home and how to differentiate between comfortable approach and
sexual advances should be the focal point of sex education for ages 5-8 years. The
importance of personal safety should be stressed at ages 8-12 years and how to
behave with family members to avoid sexual compromise. And then, at ages 13-18,
advance discussion on rape, sexually transmitted infections, and unwanted
pregnancy should be adequately dealt with.
the appropriate sex education is not given to wards when due, they may
eventually get unwholesome information from wrong sources which might lead to
decisions wrongly taken.
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