At times I can’t help but ask myself if some people understand what romance really is, romance is a pleasurable feeling of excitement and wonder when being associated with another person. It’s not all about the sexual activities a lot of couples constantly engage in. I am certain that a lot of guys and ladies don’t understand the meaning of just being together, that’s why it’s advised for young teens to leave relationship matters till they can understand better what it entails. Statistics, it could be inferred, says a high percentage, approximately fifty percent, of teenagers have engaged in sexual activity before the age of 18 (according to the Center for Disease Control).
A lot of relationships today are purely sexual ones. Most couples have forgotten the beauty in hanging out, having fun, having laughs, being playful and expressing the inner joy you feel by just being together. Okay test your relationship, when last did you have a conversation, when last did you talk about the future and what you would like it to be, when last did you share your dreams with your partner, take a walk, watch a movie together, cook together, arm wrestling, attempt to sing together (attempt ohh), when last did you send each other voice notes, massage his or her hands, feet or even back, when last did you play with your partner, when last did you relax and breathe with your partner or lay your hand on his or her chest and count their heart beats as you felt it, when last were you tickled till you couldn’t breathe, where last did your partner attempt to braid your hair and when last did you attempt to put make up on his face (for jokes), when last did you do stuffs just for doing sake to bring you together. Most relationships these days are a money vs. sex battleground we forget that life is too beautiful and love is too nice to be categorized into those two stern sectors.
There’s this relationship I knew right, the guy and girl only had conversations when the guy was wooing the girl, once the girl agreed to date him, the first time she visited him at home it turned out to be a make out session. She thought maybe it was just an impulsive act and wouldn’t be repeated again but over time the story was not as she thought. She didn’t know where he came from and what he did for fun, his likes and his dislikes. This continued till the girl was tired of the relationship and that’s when she opted out. Only for the guy to come begging and one of the things he said was and I quote “I know that we don’t have normal conversations and you don’t know me well, I have a good side, I will change.” I laughed hard when I was told this story. Please the moral of this story is getting to know your partner is the best. Knowing his or her likes, dislikes, views, and aspirations is as important as anything you can think of in your relationship. What if the guy had attempted to get to know this girl better maybe they would have been at a different place now.
Some couples make little effort in achieving a compassionate romance rather they go after only the passionate one. While passion is good and important to romance we have to understand that love based on intense sexual desire, anxiety and affection alone cannot fully fuel a relationship. Rather relationships and the romance in them will strive better from the compassionate point of view, which is respect, sharing and caring and finding common grounds.
It’s always advisable to find the ying yang in every relationship so as not to overfeed it or starve it to death. Find balance in all you do, time is too little for you not to express yourself and be all you can be while in love.
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